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6 Things You Should Never Say at Work

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A thoughtless response or wrong word can ruin your reputation for an indefinite amount of time, especially at work. It’s today’s norm that we often spend more time at work than anywhere else. Perhaps that’s why so many get a little too casual and let their guards down. Therefore, to avoid any major pit falls, take my advice and don’t say any of these six phrases…

“I may be wrong but…” Always speak with certainty and conviction! Stop discounting your credibility and value infront of others.

“That’s not my job”  Even if it isn’t, saying this suggests you either don’t care or flat out aren’t willing to help. It’s okay if you have a full workload, hence you cannot take on anything else, but always explain that and be careful how you relay that information to those around you—it may be you asking for a favor next week.

“Let’s be honest” this always makes someones heart sink, as it suggests that you know you’re about to be rude, but you don’t care.

“You look tired” trust me- unless you are very well acquainted with a person, this phrase should not be tossed around lightly. Perhaps they are under a lot of stress, didn’t put make up on today, they miscarried last night, they are sick… The list goes on. It’s likely that if all you have to tell someone is that they “look tired“, you don’t know what’s going on in their life to give them the haggard look, and should definitely keep that comment to yourself.

“I don’t mean to offend you but” Another heart breaker. Typically if you say this to a colleague it means ‘wow what a ridiculous/obviously stupid decision and my next comment is about to really embarrass you‘. If this phrase parts your lips often, try something softer like “great attempt, I appreciate your time, however could I please suggest something to you?”

“Did you hear about what so and so did last night?” Keep the party stories to yourself. Don’t be a gossip, nor risk looking like someone who is neither trustworthy or kind.

If your lips should keep from slips,
Five things observe with care:
To whom you speak,
Of whom you speak,
And how, and when, and where.

Any other tips of what not to say at work? Comment below!

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Vision, Vision, Vision

 

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision”  Helen Keller.
My wife and I are in the process of buying our first house. This, as you can imagine, is a time filled with excitement, yet sprinkled with trepidation. During our house hunt for the perfect place we came across 3 strong contenders. One stuck out above the rest. Zachary Drive. Was it the square footage? Price? Or the stylish updates? Kind of- but mostly it had a lot to do with thefeel of the home, the pictures on the wall depicting a happy family almost identical to ours. There was a perfect kid’s bedroom for our 7 month old daughter, a dining room with the exact Pottery Barn table my wife had been envisioning from the website… In short we could see ourselves living in it. So, naturally, we were devastated when a Cash Buyer swooped in and snatched up our dream property for well over asking price.

So, now you’re wondering what figurative relevance this could have to your career, it is this: Salary, title and benefits cannot define whether you are or will be happy with your job. It is you and your desires. In other words- your vision. A recent study carried out by UC Berkeley revealed that 48% of respondents felt that the most important job factor was “important work and a feeling of accomplishment” this ranked twice as high over salary and opportunities for advancement (http://www.statisticbrain.com/u-s-job-satisfaction-statistics).
Many of life’s problems are the result of lack of vision, uncertainty or unfocused energy.Therefore, if you are reading this feeling dissatisfied with your current job or career trajectory I implore you to ask yourself the following questions:

  • How did I get here?
  • Why am I here? 
  • Where would I like to be and why?

Answer these questions and you will uncover the steps you have made to get where you are today. And therefore, be equipped with your re-energized vision to chart a course to your desired destination. Make sure as you plan your journey, that you set specific milestones or goals. After all:

“When we deal in generalities, we shall never succeed. When we deal in specifics, we rarely have failure.” (Thomas.S.Monson).